July
This month marked a historic moment in California, as same-sex partners were granted the legal right to marry each other. Of course, the concept is nothing new at Redlands United Church of Christ where such religious ceremonies have been taking place for years. The only difference is they are now recognized by the government, in addition to being blessed by God.
Two interesting events took place in my own life around the same time. The first was a joyous celebration at my office when a gay man brought a video of his marriage to share with friends. He is open about his sexual orientation and accepted by many of his co-workers. The joy he felt as he shared his special event is as much a “basic civil right of personal autonomy and liberty” as is the marriage license itself.
The second event was getting an email from a relative who said that June 16th was not only his 35th wedding anniversary, but also “one of the worst days of our lives here on this earth” for him and his wife. They feel very strongly that same-sex marriage is against the teachings of the Bible and therefore the word of God.
I have sometimes heard people say they don’t mind what GLBT persons do as long as they don’t “flaunt” it. Did this gay man “flaunt” his happiness at marrying the person he loved? Would it have been “flaunting” for a straight man to bring video of his wedding celebration to share at the office?
On the other hand, deep-seated religious beliefs are not something my relative can take off like a sweater on a hot day. He truly believes that people who disregard what he sees as Biblical truth are going to be separated from God forever. That’s a pretty heavy burden to bear and he naturally wants to help protect his brothers and sisters from such a fate.
There are plenty of people on both sides of this issue. I believe our goal should be to try and understand the other side. What makes them tick? Why do they believe what they do? Where can we find common ground? Both sides need to realize the depth of conviction their “opponents” have. Only then can we heal the rift and close the gap with understanding.
With optimism and hope,
Loring Fiske-Phillips
